Update

So I’ve been avoiding giving an update because I didn’t really know what the plan was, much less known how to coherently explain to you what I thought it might be.

D went to have blood drawn today for the last genetic test. His doctor wants all (I repeat ALL) genetic testing done before seeing D. Understandable? Yes. Frustrating? Heck, yes! This means more weeks go by before we can even schedule an appointment with him. Impatient, I know. The results will be back in two weeks and, if all is well, an appointment will be made for the dreaded biopsy.

Basically, as many infertiles know, there are still many hurdles to cross before ending this glorious (dripping with sarcasm) journey. Good results on this test lead to biopsy. Lots of healthy swimmers from biopsy lead to IUI/IVF. One successful of either procedure leads to the much anticipated baby B. This infertile train(wreck?) is at least chugging along! 🙂 Thanks for your support along the way!

Results are in…

and the news is good! Everything looked fine for D genetically! There is still another test that they had to ask for permission from the insurance company before it could be done. At the next appointment D has with the doctor, they’ll go ahead and take blood for that one, too. I honestly don’t know if they would even be doing this next test if D hadn’t asked about it during the appointment with the geneticist. It looks for fragmentation of the Y chromosome and is the Y chromosome microdeletion test. D asked if there was anything genetically where he just wouldn’t produce swimmers… of course, not in those words. This test will show us if this is happening with D.

D is going to email the doctor with the results and then we’ll go from there. I’m just hoping that since we’ve been seen by the doctor already, we won’t have to wait as long for an appointment as we did last time.

What can I say? I’m impatient.

Still waiting

No news from the geneticist yet. Two weeks was technically up last Thursday, but with it being Spring Break I expected there might be a delay of some sort. Hopefully we’ll hear something in the next few days!

Happy Spring! Although since the season has changed, our Spring weather has disappeared. Once the weather is warmer, we’re ready to tackle the outdoor work. This past weekend D was busy getting our yard ready for warmer weather by fertilizing it. He also chopped up the Christmas tree that has been in our backyard and put it in the dumpster. Overdue much? Today we stocked up on mulch for the flowerbeds by loading up his truck at our local home improvement store. With a new wreath on the front door, I’m officially ready for Spring!

Adoption and the Geneticist

Spring break is here so I’m taking advantage of the extra time to finally post some updates of things that have been going on lately in our lives. First off, I enjoyed a sisters’ weekend with, of course, my sisters and mom. Since my oldest sister is very pregnant and has had her teaching load reduced to half-time due to experiencing early contractions, we did some shopping but tried to keep it pretty low-key.

My sister who is pregnant (I’ll call her J) has truly been there for me these past few years. She calls to check up on me, isn’t afraid to ask questions (because let’s face it- this is not the easiest thing to bring up in conversation with others, but at the same time, it’s on my mind all day), and has two cute little boys that she lets me borrow to ‘practice on’. ha! Her current pregnancy has been more difficult than the other two, and recently she found out that baby G has a kidney and heart issue, as well as his bones are measuring 6 weeks behind. These are all markers for Down’s syndrome. She and her husband decided against the amnio because it wouldn’t change their mind about caring for baby G, so we won’t know anything for sure until he enters the world.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14

Toward the end of last month, we took a huge step and attended an adoption conference. For me, it was acknowledging that going down that path could be a reality for us in starting and growing our family. It was also a time for D to kinda get on the same page information-wise about adoption. He will readily admit that I do all the research. I scour the websites. I obsess over blogs. Then I relay the information to him. But hearing other people talk about adoption, seeing other couples our age investigating adoption, and listening to a panel share their own adoption stories made him open up about adoption in a way that he never has at home. After the conference, we had a great conversation on our way out of town. At times it took a shallow turn, but the fact that we were talking about it was promising in and of itself.

For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans of good and not evil, plans to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

The geneticist appointment went really well. Dr. B was nice and explained different things they would be looking for in the results. She answered our questions, went through our family medical history, answered more questions, and somehow kept a straight face to some of D’s answers to her questions. We should be hearing the results from that sometime this week. I don’t feel nervous about it now, but I know that once D is sharing them with me, my heart will be pounding. I also feel this complete peace. My SIL asked me about it this weekend and gave me the sweetest, most undeserved compliment. These past two years have brought some of the lowest of lows for me. I have felt completely hopeless, at times so angry and bitter that I cried myself to sleep. The loneliness of walking this walk was so overwhelming. Unless someone has personally gone down this path of infertility, they just don’t understand. And it’s not their fault. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. So when she told me that she didn’t think she could handle this the way that I have, I had to tell her the truth.

It’s not me.

It is Him.

Somebody out there is praying His peace over me and I’m feeling it.

Did I feel His peace through all the lows? No, I don’t think I did. But was it because He wasn’t giving me His peace? No, I think His peace was readily available. I just didn’t want it. I got pretty comfortable feeling miserable. Pity parties were a common occurrence at our house.

Did I need to go through those lows so I would trust Him more? Did going through the valley make the first glimmer of light all the more brighter?

Yes. And I think that’s why even though the possible diagnosis should be devastating to me, I feel more alive than ever.

And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7

This week

I’m excited about this week for several reasons:

First, we are going to the Texas basketball game tonight. It’s Senior Night and we play that sooner team from across the Red River. While the last part of the season has been disappointing, I still love my Horns! The picture above is from the Red River Rivalry game this past football season. I had to capture the quickly emptying stands by the OU fans and the final score.

Also going on tonight is the Bachelor finale. I rarely watch this show, but with all the controversy this season, I started watching a few weeks ago and now I just have to know who he picks… and it better not be Vienna!

Thursday (finally!) is D’s appointment with the geneticist. I’m so glad it’s here! I really have a peace about it, no matter what the results are. This goes back to the adoption conference we attended last weekend that I still haven’t posted about. I will soon!

Also on Thursday is the finale to the Real Housewives of OC (which is okay), but what I’m really excited about is RH-NYC starting back up! I started watching during NYC last season, so I think that’s why these girls are my favorite. Bethenny’s humor cracks me up.

I’m finding that keeping myself occupied and busy makes the waiting not so awful. With Spring Break just around the corner, I know I’m going to need to have a list of things to do to keep my mind off waiting for the results from the geneticist. Hmm… I better get on that.